So we are creeping towards that time when people proclaim that next year everything is going to change, the bad habits are going and the path to enlightenment is near….but is it?
I am 100% all for a positive attitude, setting goals etc but I’m also a realist.
How many people are actually the ‘new me’ they said they were going to be, and, if you aren’t, why do you repeat the same process every single year? Aren’t you just setting yourself up for disappointment at the end of the year, reflecting on what didn’t change last year?
This is not me telling you to not have hopes, dreams and vision for the future. This is more me saying be realistic. If you are that unhappy with who you are today don’t wait until January to change it. Do it now otherwise your just putting off the inevitable disappointment of December 2019 when you reflect for yet another year.
How about we stop putting so much pressure on ourselves. Stop caring what everyone else thinks. Lets face it, deep down a lot of peoples decision to want to change is based on others comments and perceptions of how they think you should be living your life.
Often the people telling you how to live your life are the ones who beat themselves up the most about every aspect of theirs because they are so self critical, but it shouldn’t determine the way you live your life. It also doesn’t mean they are trying to make out they’re better than you. Sometimes its just in their nature to try and improve situations. Whether it be their own or someone else’s they cannot see that it may not be taken that way. So brush off comments from people that constantly make you second guess yourself.
One persons idea of a perfect life is completely different to another’s so why do we listen so much to what other people say. My perfect day for example is sat watching films stuffing my face with carbs for 8 hours straight where as some people cant stand to be sat still and want to be up and active all the time, we are all such different people we cant fit in one idealistic box.
So when you starting thinking about the ‘new you’ for January think about whether these things are what YOU want or are they what you think you could change to be better perceived? Is it realistic or are you going to set yourself up for something unachievable and end up disappointed and lacking drive? Absolutely stretch yourself, reach for the stars, aim high but within reason.
Stop and think about the things you have achieved the year previous. It may not be the goals you set but I bet all of us have achieved something. Even if its something little its an achievement Getting out of bed when you are having a bad day is an achievement. Emptying the washing basket is an achievement. Getting to the petrol station before you completely run out of fuel is an achievement.
I feel like subconsciously life can become one big competition. We look at what other people have or have achieved and this can distract from the bigger picture. Don’t try and be a ‘new you’ just be you. I guarantee a lot of people think you are pretty awesome as you are! If your going to set achievable goals to better your situation then good on you but don’t try and completely change who you are as a person if its for the wrong reasons.
Remember none of us are perfect!